Re: Fretting hand question
The book is wrong. But, please note that you don't hold, support etc. the mandolin. The fretting hand is there to stop the strings. The mandolin rests on your knee or in your shoulder strap -- check out Mike Marshall's d'Addario video on Youtube.
Secure the mandolin in place and then bring your hand to the neck and start playing. Your hand will land in approximately the position you describe. E.g., the thumb will land on the side of the neck and possibly trail behind on moving up the neck. Barreing may cause the thumb to slide in under the neck. but don't force it anywhere.